Ready To Rekindle The Relationship With Your Best Friend?

Four easy steps to get back to yourself

Are you your best friend, though?

Think about it for a moment; the only person you will be with for sure until the day you die is you. Now read it with enthusiasm. Isn't it worth it, then, to establish and maintain the best possible relationship with who you truly are?

If you’re ready to reacquaint with someone you haven’t seen in a while — yourself, start with these four ideas to help you rediscover who you are under all the layers covering your RealSelf.

You know those voices. They are constantly nagging you to pick up the dry cleaning, juggle the bills, schedule an appointment, clean your car, and do the laundry. With all that noise going on, hearing anything more profound than the surface is impossible.

And yet quieting the mind MUST be the first step to connecting to yourSelf.

By setting time aside every day to sit quietly, focus on your breathing, and allow the thoughts to come and go without analyzing, judging, or wanting to make them something different than what they are.

To do that, you must first believe you are here to make a difference in some form and that your RealSelf has something of value to offer to the world. And it does.

Since you talk to yourself more than anyone else in your life combined — and that’s a lot of talks! — it’s up to YOU to establish healthy communication in your thinking.

Consciously listen to how you speak to yourself; ask, “Would I say this to someone I love and respect? If the answer is no, stop. doing. that.

Write down the unhealthy things you say, even the ones you think. Challenge them, and replace them with facts.

Sounds easy enough, but by the time we’re adults, most of us have stopped listening to our hearts and connect mainly to our heads. Those two need to reconnect and work together as one to find your RealSelf. It’s easy to become accustomed to thinking and talking about your emotions instead of feeling them. Remember, the only way out is through, not avoidance.

What you’re after is a feeling — love, appreciation, gratitude, support, peace, self-esteem— instead of another trip to Target or the perfect partner. Keep an open mind to emotions, and be willing to adjust the methods you use to deal with them. Question yourself about your goals; the how and why they satisfy who you are.

The mask will come off, and your RealSelf will shine through.

A person you can know and love — you! — is waiting for you to take the time to listen, understand, accept, and forgive. Once you accept your RealSelf again, you’ll make more intelligent choices, and those choices will stick because they fit who you are. Now, that’s what you’re looking for, isn’t it?

Thanks for reading.

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